Moving With Kids
Being in Real Estate and married to a General Contractor, it goes without saying, we have moved around Tahoe alot. Taking kids and pets along adds to the task and sometimes tempers get short, feelings get hurt, and pets are unsettled.
Timelines are usually set firmly in place and with everything going on, including school and homework, stress levels can, and do, rise. When it is all over with, however, smiles broaden and laughter begins to fill the air. It was worth it! Here are some tips to help during those unsettling and chaotic times:
1. Attitude is everything. Even if you are less than thrilled to be moving (if your spouse has been transferred to someplace you swore you’d never live, for instance), you must project a positive attitude to your kids. They will pick up on whatever signals you send and act accordingly.
2. You will be stressed out, of course. But concentrate on getting enough rest, proper nutrition and exercise during the transition so that you will be able to handle the stress in a healthy way and be available to your children. Get some help from family and friends. Believe it or not, they will like helping.
3. If possible, bring your kids along when you look at houses so they feel involved in the process. This will help them to accept their new home and neighborhood.
4. If you're moving to another part of the state or to a different state, get out the atlas and show your children where they will be moving. Put together information on climate, topography, local attractions and land features (mountains, ocean, lakes), historical data.
5. Before you move, hold a going-away party for your children. Encourage your children to keep contact with his or her old friends while encouraging new friendships. Gather addresses and phone numbers of their friends to ensure contact after the move. They could set up a group email and group texts if they are of that age.
Here are More Tips for When you Arrive
1. Unpack the kids’ rooms first. Let them decide on new furniture or how to arrange their old furniture in their new room.
2. Keep to a routine. Have dinner the same time each night and make sure the kids are in bed at a specific time. While difficult in the midst of unpacking and other moving-in chores, it’s crucial to settling the kids in as soon as possible.
3. Be consistent. Don’t let misbehavior slide just because you’re too tired and stressed out to deal with issues. The sooner you establish that this home is just like the old one, the better.
4. Take your children to visit his or her new school and arrange to meet the teachers.
5. Supply your children with several copies of your new address and phone number.
6. Take time to enjoy the surroundings in your new area. Unpacking can be slow and does not need to be completed right away. Introducing your children to their new home goes beyond the house.
7. Oh, the pets........establish their new areas such as food dishes, cat boxes, dog bed, etc. first thing. It helps to let the children do this as part of their contribution to the new home.